Should you date a widow or widower? My advice.
Heartbroken, Howard had to walk away and is now only dating fellow divorcees. Sometimes we fight. Sometimes we laugh, and sometimes we cry! But, I am able to think of that as my past, as Chapter 1 in my book of life.
Thirty years ago, we would never have worked. Such a mix of different trauma and pain led her to feel that the only way to feel right again was to find another husband. Then Deborah joined Stitch. Having these women in my life has magically brought me back to my youth. I have re-discovered what I loved most about being a girl and hanging out with my friends only without the angst and self-esteem issues that haunted me then.
What more could anyone want? Use Stitch to meet different people with different backgrounds. Even with these stories, the question still remains. Who should you be dating? Rather than answer this question ourselves, we want to turn it over to you.
What do you think? Start by sharing your thoughts in the comments section below. There are no formulas. Every person and every relationship is unique. Well said Adria. There is no magic formula. I was divorced after a very long marriage and was devastated by that loss for some time.
Then i met a wondeful man who was my life partner for 15 years. He died a few years ago and since then i havent felt like dating but i really DID need companionship which was difficult because all my freinds were oartnered. I have tried lots of things like Stitch and have to say it has been able to introduce me to some v ry nice people - male and female. So rhere IS life after divorce and death, but everyone is different, and it takes time, courage, persistence and hope!
I have been separated from my husband for 7 months and recently started a relationship with someone whose wife passed away 6 months ago. I met him a year ago and he works at a establishment that I visit on a regular basis but after being abandoned by my husband of 2 years I wanted to make sure the feelings I had was real. I recently gave him my number to give me a call about 2 months ago after a year of him asking for it.
At the end of the day we would talk while I waiting on my Lyft ride to pick me up but I still had my guard up and never let him know I was interested even though I knew how he felt about me. It started out as 1 or 2 times a week on the phone, we talked about our relationship status but I still never disclosed my true feelings to him.
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As time went by we talked about what we were looking for in a mate and came to realize we were looking for the same thing after having our heart broken. We continued forward and the whole time we explained that we were vulnerable and slowly he begin to break down that wall I had built to protect my heart.
Last night at 2 Am as I was thinking about the whole situation of starting over I had a overwhelming feeling of fear because I had open my heart again and allowed some to do just what I was fighting so hard for and that is allow never someone to get close to me like that avoiding having my heart broken again.
My heart was racing but at the same time I had butterflies which of course made things worse. I truly try my best to stay true to what God says about a marriage and divorce but I know I am ready to move forward. I just wanted to share this after reading your comment. A Widower and a Divorcee can also be comparable if they are both seeking the same thing which is to have someone to care for and love who have the same deep and profound mutual feelings as you do.
I was suddenly widowed 9 years ago after 28 years of being married to my best friend. It took a long time, but I feel ready to meet some new people. I loved being married, would love to be married again someday. I have met some very bitter divorced gentlemen that are much more hesitant about the idea of marriage in general. I am not looking to replace my husband.
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I think I would be attracted to a very different type of man at this point in my life. I have wonderful memories of being married and raising our daughters, but I am excited about the possibilities, no bad feelings about being married in my baggage cart.
Very good point about the bitterness and baggage of a divorce victim, Lisa. Well spoken, thank you. I have been divorced twice and I have been widowed. With a divorce, time goes by and you heal and you get over the person. I have toyed with using a dating site, but last time I dated was 30 years ago. So I have not tried it yet. Just confirms the loneliness of being single. Marcia, I lost my husband almost 18 years ago after being together for nearly 25 years and know how you feel.
Take care of yourself and I hope you find friends soon, more people seem to be joining Stitch now. It does take a couple of weeks to really get going and have connections.
I have not yet come to terms of looking my wife of 10 years. I need someone who has gone through the same predicament to share with me. I very much agree with Adria, who astutely remarked that it is complex and each combination of two persons is unique and different.
Very well spoken. I also agree with Marcia. I was married and divorced two decades prior to meeting my dear late husband from whom I am sadly widowed. I am free of emotion regarding the divorce from long ago, as that relationship was rightly declared null and void.
But the relationship with a deceased spouse rightly continues beyond death. Your bond with the departed spouse remains. It is well and truly gone in its previous form, but hopefully you or I have integrated the virtues of the departed spouse, and the good qualities of that relationship into our beings - and can bring those to bear in any new relationships without trying to make a new person be anything other than who they are uniquely.
Regards to divorced vs widowed, we must devote sufficient thoughts and emotions and spirituality to reflect on what has transpired. The word insight comes to mind. Has the divorced person shown sufficient insight into what has gone wrong so as to not repeat it?
A widowed person like myself also needs to show insight. Love changes us, and death changes us again. Our outlook and lives would rightly reflect the depth of the tragedy. If not, warning bells should be going off. Well, i agree, we are all different, i dated a widower for about 2 years. He was a lovely man and i truely believed we could have settled down and had a good life togeather.
We share a great deal of interests. He, his family and friends made it very clear that i was only there because his late wife tragically was not. His house remained filled with her pictures, anniversaries and birthdays were always brought up with great sadness.
Whilst i know it must be a terrible loss, if someone wants to move on to a new relationship, then they really do need to be sensitive to their new partner too. I would be very cautious in future about dating a widower. Marcia et all. I agree with all that you have said. I got divorced after bankrolling my husband thru his doctoral program and working full time.
Then my place of employment told me that I had to work on Bachelors and Masters degrees. Not having received any monetary compensation from him I continued to work full time and attended classes evenings and weekends. No time for any socializing. After 8 years I got my Masters then the powers that be said you need to work on your doctorate. Finally after a couple of years of dating I met my husband who really was the love of my life.
He was a widower and I a divorcee, We had about 21 years of a fabulous wonderful life but then he became very ill and passed away 4 years ago. I find that having been divorced and also widowed the widowed men are much more compassionate and sensitive to my feelings as they have also experienced similar situations. Two divorced men I dated did not seem to understand the deep bond a truly happy and compatible couple has.
I find that it is very hard to be alone especially at this age. I find that one has to be very straightforward and up front. I hope that those of you who needed more support found it at the time when you most needed it.
Has anyone found it easy to meet again and find a great partner, I would love to hear your story? Hi Natalie, you can check out our blog about Carol and Doug and read their story.
I had been proposed twice and offered of shacking up twice. I have and still make it clear to acquaintances and friends that feeling need to be mutual and past history remains past history.
If any relationship is form, we move on with a new chapter. To have fun withyes aplenty! You never forget the one you lost. Lamenting the loss for a periodyes by all means. Be appreciative that we had our departed love one for as long as we did. If we were in an unpleasant relationship, divorce had been a blessing. I have been a widow for over 20 yearsI had been loved and treasured so much, as much as I had been a wonderful, supportive and emphatic wife and person.
Birth, love, lost, death. So many women have written here. I feel outgunned. I am a widower. It is a hard thing to get over, especially when the relationship was so strong and is suddenly gone. But I also remember that it was many years in the making. There was a bond, but it took work to get through the rough times and that common struggle brought us closer together.
Finally, read up on the topic of regrief. At each new developmental stage, kids understand the world in new and different ways. They often start to view their ongoing grief through this new lens and this may also mean revisiting your role in the family. All this is why it is so important to keep an open dialogue with your partner and, if appropriate, their children about their grief. Am I ready to accept the complicated feelings that might come up for the children?
If I mention these days, will I remind them of the pain? Ask yourself: Are you ready to be there for whatever they need the only thing worse than not offering is not following through? If you are struggling as a partner to a widow erthe biggest question to ask yourself is whether you are truly ready to accept that the person you are dating will, on some level, always love and care about the person who died?
Are you able to believe - on an intellectual and emotional level - that their love for the person who died does not take away from the love they have to give to you? And, if you are gentle and open to learning more, you may find their memories and connections to the person make up another wonderful layer of them that you can get to know through stories and memories.
With all the problems women experience dating widowers, many have asked whether widows and widowers are more suited for each other. That's what makes widower dating, widow dating or building a That's because each person and situation is unique. Everyone mourns differently, so widows/?widowers must be careful not to let other people dictate the. Should they only date other widows and widowers? I love, it doesn't matter about how we got there, just that we found each other now.".
Thoughts, questions, concerns, words of wisdom on this topic? Leave a comment below! I dated a widower for two and a half months this past summer. It was a very sudden and unexpected relationship.
I knew who he was and actually taught one of his sons about 15 years ago he is 24 now. We had a wonderful couple of months together and got to know each other very well. Our communication was excellent. It was a very passionate, healhty, and respectful relationship. He spoke often about his late wife whom I knew earlier as the teacher of her child and I was very open about my children.
We both agreed that our children come first and that if any issues should arrise with our children i. I shared with him early on my anxiety about me having young children 8 and 11 and his being older 22 and He told me not to lose sleep over it and encouraged me to relax about the issue.
After letting my guard down and allowing the relationship to proceed, he ended up breaking things off because his boys started to get him thinking about the fact that I have young boys.
He is a little older than me and moving into retirement mode a little sooner than I would be as well. He said maybe he would feel differently in a month but he did not want to lead me on and hurt me. I know he is very genuine and I respect his decision. However, we really connected and cared for each other. We ended up seeing and being with each other a few times in the six weeks following the break-up and found it difficult to be apart.
He kept saying he is trying to figure things out.Sex and Intimacy with Widowers
She had a terrible battle with cancer. I am lost. I am trying to accept this. I think maybe the whole relationship was too soon for him. Any words of wisdom would be appreciated. How do I read him? Was it too soon? There are so many things I can relate to with your experience. I love d this woman widow more than anyone I have ever been in relationship with.
We lasted about a year and it was amazing, but I am not anything like her departed husband from 2 years ago if that really matters as I was not trying to be a replacement for him.
She also told me if it were just her and I things would be different. Needless to say there is much heartbreak from my side and possibly hers as well. All you can probably really do is to let him be, wish him well and know if it is not him there will be someone come into your life and you will see why things worked out the way they have.
As hard as it is though, maybe it is the best for all of you. You will find your partner on the path doing the things you love. Seeking advice. He has no children as his late wife was 16 years older than him. I thought he had gone through the grieving process as her death was not sudden. It was a long battle with cancer. He always wanted children, but she was unable to have any and that pains him a great deal and the fact that I have three kids myself scares him because he gets attached to kids very easily and it would kill him if he met mine and we broke up.
Would it be wise to ask him to tell me about her? About them? I have met a widower and he and I, share that we have both gone through a devastating loss. It is a very new relationship, and one of the things that we have in common is that we know how grief affected the person left behind. It is a relief to be able just to be yourself and to have open and honest frank conversations about the depths of grief and how we do our best to live a life as best as we can without our partner or child.
I am hopeful, its been nearly five years for the both of us and I think that we will are about to embark on something exceptional. Neither one of us will ever replace the family member we lost, but we can help each other find happiness in caring and committed way. I never thought I would be dating a widower, and I am sure he was not planning on meeting someone who had lost a child within the same period of loss. Only time will tell if we can find a happy ever after, following such loss and tragedy in our lives.
I will keep you all posted as to how we get on. One thing I will say to each individual who has experienced loss, and to those dating someone has suffered a loss. Life is too short, and we have to try our best to find happiness and contentment in our lives. Please help, my best friend died of cancer two years back. Five months down the road, her husband called me and said he wanted to meet and talk to me. We met and after long conversation pertaining our experiences on our beloved ones, he changed the story and told me he wanted to fall in love with me infact to marry me.
I was so shocked. My questions to him were. Is that why you called me? Is it not too early for you to begin thinking of remarrying? He said he would give it time. Two years down the road, I thought the man had already forgotten and moved on with his life but the man is back to me and very serious in a relationship.
He tells me that there is no other person that he knows very well other than me. I have been a very good friend to his wife and even their children give me respect. I have been with them through thin and thick. However, I came to know him through his wife because she was my best friend then she introduced me to the family. This man has never ask for love from me when the wife was still alive.
I am a single mother of a daughter aged 25 years. I feel I am used to my own life and very comfortable with it but the man does not want to give me space. I also feel I will be betraying my friend though she is gone. What do I do?. I am a widow dating a widower. We both have children, and I am a year ahead in my loss then him.
Everything always seems to be in such a good place, but I find that he and his children grieve differently then my children and I. This is not really an issue, everyone grieves differently. Just wanted to hear others thoughts on this.
I am a widower, my wife died 5 months ago. I spent 1 month in seclusion and mourned her passing. We were married for 36 years and had two children, and two grandchildren. Life was great until she got sick and died. I loved her very much and treated her like a queen.
She kept busy after her husband died and it sounds like she did not grieve. She had a series of relationships that did not last. Now I am the only boyfriend that has lasted for over a month. She has taken me to meet her daughter and 3 grandchildren locally. Then she is taking me out of town to meet her son, daughter-in-law, and grandchildren. I love this woman, but I am not sure she loves me as much as I love her. We are leaving in a few days time to meet her son and his family.
The meeting with her daughter and her family went very well. Mike its too early for you to be dating. But 5 months after your wife died is too soon, even if you spent 1 whole month in secluded mourning.
One of the big things widow er s are warned against is starting new romantic relationships too soon. Its very tempting because we have a big empty spot in our life where our spouse used to be.
We sooo much want that void filled again! I dated a widower for over 8 years living together for 7. From day one his adult children made it difficult. I have not had 1 birthday or xmas card nor been permitted to meet his 3 grandchildren. I was treated like filth while my family welcomed him with open arms. To cut a long story short his life was made so difficult seeing grandchildren etc that he left me.
I am in utter devestation and feel so used. Perhaps I was a band aid for 8 years. Sad thing is we shared everything and loved each other s much but evidently I was nothing compared to the ghost!! Unless you have in fact been in a relationship with a widow or widower you cannot give professional advice. Just like someone not married giving marital advice or someone who doesnt have children giving parenting advice. I have been seeing a widower for about 5 years. His wife has been gone for over 8.
He wants me to move in with him. His son recently was in the hospital. Same hospital his wife died in, and says he gets depressed every time he goes up there. To me, he makes it about him and not anyone else. There are other things that he works the same way.
What should I do? You arent being understanding enough. Of course the hospital his wife died in will make him depressed everytime he is there. It reminds him of death! The fact that his son was there is making him anxious because it brings up memories of death and how his son might die too. He isnt making it about himself, he is merely expressing how he feels to someone who thought understands him.
I feel you are the one not ready to be in a relationship with a widower. My husband of 20 years was murdered in I have attending hos murder trial, I have been fighting for justice for him, mobilizing his comrades to help me fight. We even made partu regallia bearing his photo since he was a politician. We all planned to wear these on the trial dates. My new boyfriend would stop talking to me. I decided to pull the plug. He puts things on social media for my friends and family plus me to see saying never forgotten.
Am I being unreasonable? I really wish I had someone I could talk to and who could shed some light on this topic. Makes me wonder if he needs help to process his grief.
Have not dated and after reading these comments I doubt if I ever will. I had a great marriage and feel that I could bring so many good things to a relationship but these comments make it seem like a daunting task.
Not all people are the same. If you think you might want to date again, there is someone out there willing to accept the situation as it is. For those of us who have never dated a widow er this is uncharted territory and those who truly care about the other will be patient and try to understand. In my situation, my father is also a widower and was for many years before I connected with my guy, so I have a little insight, both from watching my dad and having lost someone I care about deeply my mom.
My advice, just be as open and honest as you can manage. I have been dating a widower for just over a year, and recently my kids and I moved into his home. His late wife passed away 3 months before we turned our work friendship into something more, she had been sick for over a year and he said his grieving had started when she was diagnosed with cancer years ago.
For months I have been dealing with his Mom and some neighbors spreading rumors about me to other family and friends, assuming I am in the relationship for money. He always has my back. Any way, I make my own money and have supported my kids and myself for over 8 years. He always wanted to travel, camp, and be active and the late wife and him always settled for not doing much. Their relationship was ending before she was diagnosed but being married for over 20 years, they were still best friends and he loved her so he took care of her while she was sick.
No-one knows she was cheating on him and was leaving him for another man, and they should never know, I just wish they could leave me alone because it hurts. I would never treat him like that, nor take anything from him. They dont know me, and refuse to get to know me while constantly putting her in a spotlight of being the most amazing person.
In previous articles we've talked about widows and widowers dating and visited cemeteries together, and consoled each other in our darkest. What is 'too soon' for widows and widowers who date again? with cancer passed away, their widowed spouses fell in love with each other. Others jump straight back into it, attempting to quickly remedy their feelings or find a 10 top tips | Dating advice for widows and widowers.
This has been hard. He asks his Mom to stop, but we get texts and calls from his friends saying she was talking about me and was worried I was taking his money she lives across the country thank goodness. Its just been such an uphill battle. On top of all that I am noticing things at the house that still have his late wife name and pics around.
Every time I walk through the front door I see a welcome sign that has their last name and first name above the entry outside. Plus her large memorial picture still hangs in the garage.
I am having a difficult time feeling like this place is ours because of that. All of her decorations are still up, the kitchen is still filled with the things she picked out. Its been hard not feeling like I live in the shadow of a dead woman. I feel like a jerk if I were to take them down, or ask him to.
Its all so new to me, and has been such an uphill battle, but I truly love him and want us to have an amazing life together. His wife of 40 years past away only weeks before we met. But we are making this work because when we are together it feels right.
Yes, her photos are up. Yes, he talks about her a lot. Yes, he occasionally shows signs of depression and is overcome with tears of grief. But he will in time learn to live with her passing and make room I. His heart for me. He is a sensitive soul. Going it alone is not in his nature. He needs someone and if not me it would be someone else, maybe someone not so understanding or who is does not feel threatened by his past.
He is healing and learning to grieve in a healthy way no drink, no drugs, no hiding his head in the sand. I was widowed almost a year ago- at 30 years old- when my husband was killed in a motorcycle accident. My husband was my first love. We were married for 10 years and have two kids. Recently a sweet guy started dating me. I told him I was not ready to commit but he was persistent that he was willing to wait. I cried so much because he had been keeping me company and calling me when I felt alone and I missed the feeling of having someone there for me, listening to me, and assuring me he loved me.
A day later I unblocked him because I felt like he deserved more explanation and a chance to express how he feels. Then he convinced me to give love a chance and to stop thinking so much. He told me to stop thinking love is so complicated. I tried to give love a chance. One day later I cut off all contact again. This time I am not going back because in this experience I realized that I am definitely not ready to love.
I want the companionship but not the feeling that I have to try to convert my mind over to loving someone so different than my husband. Using my heart and trying to love someone right now is like driving a car with no air in the tires. I lost myself when I lost my husband and I am still trying to learn to love me. Hi I also lost my husband when I had just turned 32 after 10 years of marriage and two children. My husband honestly could not of hand picked someone better for me.
The feelings of guilt and worry and thought of going through that again over shadows the joy quite often. I wish you all the beat on your journey, it truly takes a toll on the heart, soul and mind. Thank you for writing this article and providing an opportunity for discussion in the comments section. I firmly believe every relationship requires investment from both parties.
One thing I learned from my hardest thing ever, is that there is no right way to do anything. There is only the way that feels best and sometimes that is super difficult to determine.
In terms of a relationship after being widowed, our plan is to continue to work with our therapists individually, eventually work with them together and along the way, read articles like this and discuss them together. After reading the questions and comments all interring some offensive.
Is it any wonder why widows try to date widowers? Think if it like this? Can you erase halfyour life or more? Please be sensible. My husband and I have been married for 12 years. We have a daughter together and he is a stepdad to my 2 children from a previous marriage. My kids accepted him. His past relationship was with his best friend and he shared in raising her 2kids.
They had not been in relationship in 10years other than friends. They lived together. She past away during a time where he was unable to be there. The kis moved far away. He kept in close contact with them. They were family he raised then from the age of 18mo and 3years old. I have more empathy than anyone should have so know i would never replace their mom.
They always ask how life is treating us and he never mentions me or our life together. I think life would be so much better if open communication and acceptance was there i have so much love and respect for his past life so much that it kills me dailey. I broke a promise to my grandfather that i made him the night before he died. It was if i ever had a girl to give her my grandmas name. Their mom had the same name so i had to out of respect for them break a promise to the man i loved more than life my poppop.
I am dating a widow. We are both 52 now. We met 5 years ago, 2 years after her husband died. They had a daughter, 16, and a son, 14 at the time of his death. I have 2 sons ages 30 and I am the only person she has dated since her husband died. We have a long distance 50 miles relationship. It began with emails for the first 3 months. Then we got together for the first time we knew each other in high school and hit it off.
At the time we started our relationship, she was still struggling to find happy moments in her days but she is very strong and took care of her kids and the new jobs she had to take care of around the house for the first time. She said that during those first two years she just felt normal at work where she had her job to do. She started having happy moments. We hit it off and things went very well. I heard from many of the family members that they were happy to see her smiling and happy again.
They are all very accepting of me as well. Things were going very well. We saw each other often. We had not made detailed plans for our future, but we both expected that our future was together. These things changed a few months ago. The calls she would make the calls, I had the morning text and communication were starting to lessenby quite a bit.
When we got together, I said I needed to talk to her and she said that we really needed to. She explained that she started having those same feelings she was having before we starting getting to know each other. She is filled with grief for her husband. The kids are now in college or graduated from college. She is really struggling with grief right now and she is pulling away from me. A few weeks ago, we talked and agreed the expected calls, communications, etc.
She needed space from me. We still talk occasionally and see each other a little bit, but I am really struggling and want to do the right thing. She used to know that she wanted to spend the rest of her life with me and now she just thinks the future is an unknown.
I am struggling with how to move forward. I wonder if it is best for me to give her space no communication as that will allow the grieving process to move forward, or if I should be there at the random times she reaches out.
I love these moments, but I feel like they are random moments of happiness surrounded by emptiness and stress. Perhaps I am looking for words of wisdom or maybe I just needed to pour out my thoughts. When I wrote about the things that her husband is missing and she is missing the chance to share, it makes her feelings seem so much easier to understand. Hi, Frank. I never hear from her anymore and sometimes I wonder if I was just being used. It hurts like hell not having her in my life like I once did.
I think these are the chances one takes when dating a widow. Their lives are so complicated. Even if they are ready to move on, their lives may not be. For me, I try to focus on making myself better, going out with others even if I still miss herand dropping her a line every now and then to make her laugh and know she is cared about.
Thanks for sharing your story. Hi Frank. I am a widow myself and am struggling to move on. One minute I want to be with my new boyfriend but next minute I want to be alone. I would say give her time be patient with her, grieving is the most complex phenomenon no one can ever begin to define.
It comes in different shapes and colors everyday.
I am dating a widow(er) and they are still close to their deceased partner's family. an open mind about the role these relationships play in your significant other's life. At each new developmental stage, kids understand the world in new and. The other two whose names initially made me think they might be promising, "?Just Widower Dating" and "The Widow Dating Club," each had. "I think I could only date a widower - only someone who has gone through this could understand," I told a buddy when I thought I might be.
I am in that situation as a 3 year old widow. Be patient with her if you really love her. I have been dating a widower for two and a half years. He has been widowed for 7. He has met everybody in my family, has been invited to every family function, etc. I have never met anyone in his family. He has one grown daughter33, who only wants her dad to be with his deceased wife, or so he tells me.
I am baffled and extremely hurt by all of this. Any thoughts.? Oh and nothing has been touched since his wife died 7 years ago. All her belongings are still on her dresser, clothes still hanging in the closet, clothes in her drawers, shoes, pocketbooks, you name it. Hi Peggy Did you get any answers? My boyfriend is a widower of 8 years. He had a girlfriend of 4 years, then one for 1 year and me for one year now. And I think dating in the gaps. He has 2 adult married sons, one is a consultant.
The one son and wife live 2 roads away, the other in 30 miles away but comes up to work near my bf town, plus wife works close by. The house has not been changed since her death. Nothing at all.
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I had to ask him to remove her personal effects including hair decorations and handbags and pictures of them together off the dressing table as I felt I was waiting for her to walk in the bedroom when we were in bed. I got the answers you got. They tolerate me and when he had other girlfriends but ate not overly welcoming. They have their own homes but want mums night with him every single week. I find it extremely hard.
I do t care about the villages if photos of her throughout the entire house, or the stuff they accrued in their life but the Wednesday exclusion is very hard for me. This Wednesday vigil, plus the museum plus screensaver on his monitor is of her just feels too much.
He deleted WhatsApp messages he sent her. I feel bad for him as I finished with him now. I feel torn. I am a divorcee of a marriage of 29 years. I met a beautiful woman over a year ago and we have been committed to each other, however, our relationship has been rocky.
First, my SO is a widow. She was married to him a short time 2 years before he met an untimely death in a vehicle accident over 5 years ago. She insists she was ready to move on when we started dating. I continued seeing her because I figured I would gain a friend, and we would be friends to help each other in our journey. So, in time the rings came off, and due to a home renovation project the pictures are down for now.
Whether they get resurrected at a later date I am not sure at this time. I love this woman more than anything, and she tells me the same. But, we have a rocky relationship now.
I have tried to embrace her past, understanding and being empathetic to her plight, and, comforting her when she is down. But, it is causing me distress as it seems there is still many parts of her CURRENT life that I am being omitted from, and, not being allowed to enter. At times we are happy and friends and family thing we are a couple. However if I am not around, you might think she is married and has a relationship with her deceased husband.
I am trying, trying to work with this scenario but I am having sleepless nights now. If she is not ready why does she say she is? And, am I being selfish? Any and all input would be appreciated. Thank You. Hi, Ron. A few thoughts, since you asked for feedback.
Many people wear wedding rings for a long period. The reasons vary. Though she was married to him a short time, she may have experienced traumatic grief due to the sudden loss. She may have been reluctant or unable to make changes for awhile. Maybe your HVAC works better!
Social media means different things to different people. Maybe her pages are only to promote her business or keep up with distant cousins. But does he make as much money? I see that this is a very old blog but still, I am in need of some direction and you all seem very well versed in this specific situation. So, I am a divorcee x 2 both times it was due to infidelity on their parts, the first time we had been together for 17 years and a wonderful marriage and 2 beautiful children and the 2nd lasted only 3 hellish years, thankfully God did NOT allow children to be created.
So I have been single for the past 5 years and have always felt like one of my purposes in life is to be a Wife, even though I was robbed from it twice, I still believe Love exists and am ready for it. Yes, you guessed it, I have met a Widower and he has stolen my heart. So, only 2 months after her death, he and I met. He has had many ups and down for the past 6 months but all-in-all we have gotten through them all. I am irrevocably in love with this man, he is everything I have prayed for in a mate.
He loves God more than anything and desires to serve him with his whole heart, as do I. We have many many things in common but there are a few things that cause me concern and I am asking for a little direction from those of you that may have some answers to help me.
Am I being foolish, or is this something that is normal behavior? Could someone please help! Thanks, and God Bless- Tricia.