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Internet Dating is soooooo weird!! Chat to other single parents here about the joys and challenges of single parent life. From how to successfully juggle co-parenting to contact weekends, child maintenance payments, and every other aspect of single parent life. If you're new to single parent life, make sure you check out our guide to becoming a single parent. Log in Register. Page: 1. Hi Ladies Just wanted to share my experiences of internet dating so far as i havent been doing it for long, however i have come across a lot of players etc!
Well im a member of Match. So i tried POF heard good and bad things about it, like any dating website i suppose, and ive been on there a few weeks now. The first night i joined a very handsome guy sent me a message so we started to chat for a bit, then it came to fruition that he was only after one thing!
As you can imagine i knocked that on the head straight away! The worst is yet to come, so after the constant messers a guy, who is very handsome and seemed right up my street messaged me, even though it all looked good i was apprehensive and didnt have the courage to reply and it go nowhere again. However i plucked up the courage and i did, we swapped numbers and started texting and then he phoned me and we spoke on the phone and i was impressed he sounded lovely, however he did seem a little bit too keen to meet me, even though thats nice!
However i got a little sucked in because he seemed like a genuine guy, very happy, not a smarm or a sleaze! Natasha W This was exactly why I stopped using dating websites. I got fed up with either sleezy perves or desperardos!
I really can't understand why guys would message a girl he's never spoken to before to ask for sex? I've just accepted the fact I'm single and am enjoying every second. You never know mr right might pop up when you're least expecting it! Hi Natasha I totally agree, it is a nightmare, i have heard it can work but maybe only for certain people!
There are a lot of weirdos, nutters, pervs desperados, and egotistical knob heads on them, whichever one you go for its doomed, where did all the nice men go, they mut be out there somewhere!! Maybe im too picky Hi Natasha I totally agree, it is a nightmare, i have heard it can work but maybe only for certain people!
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Maybe im too picky. Rebecca M Ive met him and he's lovely and he adores my mum and she adores him and he's such a geniuine bloke Natalie you're not the only picky one. It seems the older I get and the longer I'm single for, the pickier I become! Thanks Rebecca, I'll persevere a little while longer and see what happens lol Natasha - TBH thats the best way to be, i spent 11 yrs with a total idiot, the last thing i want is to jump into a relationship with another one.
Deleted profile. If you've got low standards then internet dating is perfect! Oh and I met on match. We had both been on there less than a week. Victoria C I married my second internet date!!! Just as you get some knobs, perves and idiots on internet, you can get that kind of guys in pubs and clubs and whatever else.
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Quote: If you've got low standards then internet dating is perfect! Ann Marie G 9.
Creepizoids Weirdos and Perverts on Dating Sites I saw this on (Link): Single Steve's blog - he had an unfortunate experience with eHarmony. I have always had reservations about online dating, and with good reason. I have always thought of men who date online as weirdos and creeps with malevolent. 99% of the guys who use online dating are midgets. All under 5ft 8. Secondly 90% of them are either complete weirdos or complete perverts.
Hi, there are a few nice ones out there I started internet dating 7 years ago manily because I worked stupid hours and my social life was dwindling as a result so meeting Mr Right wasnt on the horizon, I dated a few nice guys some for a few weeks others months and remained friends with a couple long after too now both married, one with a toddler nowI also met my current partner of 6 years online and we have a 2year old son together Rebecca M wrote: hardly think its fair to say everyone that internet dates ,must have low standards!!
Sarah P I met my wonderful husband via a online dating site, been together now 8 years with two wonderful boys. Both worked stupid hours and were shy, but we talked for hours before we met up and became friends first. However there were some interesting people who contacted me!!!! Kerry J Natalie Im totally with you on internet dating sites, over the last 2. Ive come off them all now and hoping one day to meet one the old fashioned way, until then Im quite happy on my own.
Im fairly picky too, Ive got a brain, own house, car, one lovely child, just started OU degree and want someone who I find interesting to be with and fancy the pants off lol. Im sure it works for some but its definately not for me, the men after just one thing I am not a prostitute I may just have been really unlucky but Im just stating my personal experience of it, like alot of things there are people who have been lucky in it and those who havent.
Not saying its like that for everyone, just what Ive found it to be. Im sure if there is a research poll out there there would be as many good experiences as bad, perhaps worth just staying with it, you never know, certainly wouldnt waste my money on the paid sites though, there are the good and bad on all of them so save your money and use the free ones : Good luck with it, hope you have better luck on it than I have x Natalie Im totally with you on internet dating sites, over the last 2.
Whats the advert say "Single life can be fantastic, dont give that up for just anyone", such a wise saying!! Im sure if there is a research poll out there there would be as many good experiences as bad, perhaps worth just staying with it, you never know, certainly wouldnt waste my money on the paid sites though, there are the good and bad on all of them so save your money and use the free ones Good luck with it, hope you have better luck on it than I have x. Laura J Laura J wrote: Dating is complex business, I don't think that is necessarily internet dating but dating in general.
I completely agree! I was still living at home. I do agree that after the first day is too quick. However, I would also personally not wait 2 years either. If that worked for you, that is cool.
I usually talked online for at least a few days or longer. Thanks for your comment and have a good day! How could you want to meet someone in person so fast, i had a gal ask me on the first day, and i dropped her and never spoke to her again. I met my wife on line and didn't mention meeting for two years Maybe meeting to soon is the problem. Don't push you never know. I once talked to a guy online for several weeks and never met him.
No matter how much I brought up the subject of meeting, he changed the subject. Funny thing is, he worked right down the block from me. It would have been easy to meet during a lunch break or after work.
I had to give up on him! For all I know, I was talking to your brother!
Terrific hub! My brother is not a gamer, but he's active with on-line dating with no intention of actually going on a real live date. It's way too messed up for me to decipher, but I'm sure he's not the only one. I think it's like belonging to Weight Watchers but not following their diet plan; you're a little in but not really. I want women to know about these guys like my brother. If the guy doesn't want to get together in the first couple of weeks, don't waste any more time and move to the next!
The ones that don't even know your name but already love you, or is that just with that those creepers decide that they love me for life and want to marry me after a few minutes? Sorry you feel that way about online dating sites. You certainly have the right to your opinion.
I actually never had to approach any men online I was approached all the time by men, which is how I was able to write this hub. Good luck at the bars! Online dating is definitely mostly for chicks on the rebound, attention whores and women with low self-esteem. That's why it's usually a last resort to dating. I learned it was better to let women hit me up online and I not message them at all.
When I get messaged by women, they never say anything clever or funny, it's mostly just questions because without they're body or looks sadly women have little charm, or at least the ones I've dated which is a lot. Every possible greeting has been thought of so women don't understand that a simple greeting doesn't mean I'm like the last guy that gave you a simple greeting, that's why women tend to get weird shit messaged to them because we are trying not to be like the other hundred hellos you just received.
Same with the like button, but I thought she really liked my so if I see online hell yeah I'm gonna hit her up. We like the same things according to the matched profiles so this should right, wrong. Hello, barely works in any type of way, introductions barely work, short or long, I've actually had my success at saying the most vulgar shit, getting cursed out then apologizing and saying that it was just a joke to make you smile. I'll stick to bars and clubs where an answer to a question doesn't take hours from someone who"likes" me lol.
Goodluck fishing gentlemen cause you are gonna need it to find a decent chick on these sites. Some men have a lot of nerve. I can't believe how some guys behave on those sites. I wonder if the reasoning behind it is something like, "if she does not like me yet, she will love me when I insult her. I just bit the bullet with a dating website again and got to experience my very first Overly Aggressive Guy, who proceeded to insult me by implying that I was only out for dick pics, then when I sent my message to an earlier comment I hadn't had the pleasure of reading the dick message yet he decided to send me his phone number and mentioned that I should contact him, though he thought I was acting like I thought I was too good for him.
Like, ignoring you was a sign, dude. ETI: Oh and he pulled the: "You were my last resort before deleting this account", in his earlier messages. For all the ladies out there-hope it's true. But I sincerely doubt it! Thanks so much for the votes and for checking out my hub. I am always shocked at how many men post terrible photos on their profile in this day and age.
I mean, just about everyone has a digital camera or a camera on their phone. There is no reason for such terrible photos! And yes, the guys that mention sex right off the bat are pretty special, but according to some of my male friends, there are women out there that are happy to respond to just that.
Who knew? I like that you've made this article unique, in part, because you've given funny names to the various online crazies out there. You are so right in saying that some men's pictures resemble mug shots. It's just so weird that anyone would post an ugly photos like that. I mean, really- how can a man not understand that a picture needs to look pleasant, inviting and, well And don't you just hate it when guys online say how one of the most important things to them is Sex.
Uh, right. Like women don't already know that about men. But at least with a guy like that, he's pretty much given you the information you need to press Delete and not waste another minute of your time. Levertis Steele - I have heard of those online relationships. How scary! There are too many dishonest people out there. I was not sure how to categorize the total fakes that are lying about their gender, so I just kept that out of the hub, but you are so right. They are definitely out there.
Thanks for your comment. I am glad you liked the hub, and yes, unfortunately most of it is totally happening on dating sites on any given day. This is so true, but some of these guys-women too-are crafty enough to put on sheep's clothing in order to land their catch. Now, that's dangerous. How about the lonely gay guys and girls who pretend that they are the opposite sex in order to have an online affair with straight people? Some have even had the nerve to meet their "honey" with hopes of being accepted.
Imagine what this does to a masculine macho who has fallen head-over-heels in love. I sympathize with the single guys and gals who get fooled, but the married ones who are computer creeps-LOL! We've been together for almost a year I am glad I got to experience it for a while though. Thanks for your comment! Online dating is definitely an adventure. Thanks for visiting my hub! This is a super article! While my online dating occurred in there are some very similar situations.
I met two wonderful men and one creepy guy. So, be cautious everyone! Sadly I never got to experience online dating, but it sounds like you have covered every type of guy out there. Good job! I met my boyfriend online! I was quite lucky in that. He turned out to be really nice in real life, plus we share almost the same interests.
We've been together for 7 years. GwennyOh- unfortunately shows like Oprah and others like her focus on the bad, if they told good stories the ratings would fall through the floor. Sensationalism is what people care about, not the truth. I met my wife on line in 99 met n in for first time in person in 02, she moved here and we got married in 04, had our first baby in 11 and will be married for 10 years next year. If not for the web I don't know where I'd be.
I have a pretty high tolerance for online "weirdness" now, but every now and then, I would still see a guy online that shocked me. For now, I have been dating someone for 4 months I met online I am happily married but it is interesting to see how times have changed. I met my wife through my work and after awhile everything clicked.
I can see how hard and scary it could be for any woman on a dating site. You scared me me away and I'm a guy. My cousin divorced looking for love in all the wrong places.
He agreed with you on many topics. I think old fashioned ways might still be the best way. Interesting and shocking. GwennyOh - You have to be really careful with online dating sites.
I am cautious, but I do take chances here and there. Some guys are weird, but there are plenty of nice guys, too. You can leave if you promise that you will go home and stop using online dating sites".
I have been married for some time; so online dating is not something I have given thought to.
I saw an Oprah show many years ago, where women spoke of some seriously bad stuff that had happened to them due to meeting men they had corresponded with online. One woman had her skull crushed with a baseball bat. You just don't know who you will meet. But online dating sites are likely going to attract some members who have issues within 'real life' society.
Thanks so much! Online dating can be an adventure, but it is possible to meet a perfectly nice person while using the sites, too. It helps to have a sense of humor until meeting that perfectly nice person.
I will of course bear all this in mind if I ever succumb to internet dating. Voted up and funny. I am happy you enjoyed it.
Online dating definitely has its ups and downs. Seriously funny. I haven't laughed so much in a while.
Enough to put anyone off online dating. I just try to look at it as an adventure and that works best. I am currently dating someone that does not fall into any of the categories above and I am pleased about that. I never partook in online dating so I had no idea Best wishes in your continued search. I've had that happen too. Thanks for checking out my hub! Ardot - I've found the most successful online dating stories often begin with two people meeting without really looking for each other.
There is less pressure and people act more like themselves. However, I do know two married couples that met on POF, so it can work on dating sites, too. I am not too sure foot fetish gal exists either, but then again, I am not looking for her. Jmillis - I am happy you enjoyed my hub. Maybe you will give online dating a shot sometimes. I can be Thanks for the vote up! I have never really tried online datingbut this was a very entertaining hub. In those days it was easy to be "the guy who says he is a girl and chats with guys as a girl" guy.
In those days the online dating scene was for prison inmates and weirdo's posing as people they were not.
But seriously, I met her in the chat room but was not looking to meet anyone, I was just hanging out as a guy and happened to find a normal person who lived nearby. By not looking for love online, I have avoided all of the above profiles you have mentioned. I love the way you used humor to get across a real point. It can be very dangerous to meet face to face with anyone online. BTW, guys, stop looking for the elusive "foot fetish gal". She does not exist as you imagine her. Thank you for your post.
Nice to understand the online dating scene from a women's perspective. Only success story I have is running into a chick I dated and became friends after meeting again.
And ohhh, a MySpace success story! I don't hear about too many of those, but I remember dating a guy or two from MySpace. Those dates actually went better than many of my POF dates. Good point about not knowing until you're at mom's house haha. Reminds me of the movie Hangover.
Oh yes, the Mama's Boy. There are plenty of them on dating sites. You just can't tell at first. It takes a date or two sometimes at Mom's house before you realize it. Really fun article to read. Just wanted to add Mama's boy. Your welcome. I do understand that, they can be hard to date when that's all they want to talk about. Even if you, yourself, play games it gets old.
I have also dated the gamer guy in the past. He is not a horrible person, but typically gamer guy is not a fun date I prefer the gamer guy more then any of those guys. I like games and find that if you run out of things to talk about then just ask them what game they are playing and within hours you are able to figure out all the cheats to your new game. I think I've dated just about all the guys on this list, too. There are some real weirdos out there! So awesome, I am 19 years old and have dated all these guys before or at least meet them online or in person.
Everything you said is basically true. Thanks so much for your comment! You are so right As a matter of fact, I think many guys still believe they are in high school and haven't matured much beyond it.
This was funny! It looks like there is not much difference out there from the guys that were in high school, well except there is the scary factor now.
Love this hub! Thank you and I agree that our "gut" instinct really is the tell-tale sign of fear telling you to run like hell or maybe some fluttery butterfly saying "hey this could work!
what happened when he posed as a woman on online dating sites that online dating for girls is at best a random lottery of weirdos - at. And guys, yes, I know there are some weird women approaching you on online dating sites, too. By all means, please write your own hub about. What It's Like to Be a Woman In Online Dating Man goes on dating site. I figured I would get some weird messages here and there, but what I got was an . Now, I am on match, and not to say there aren't perverts there too, but my profile.
Thanks for the great advice! I totally believe in background checks too. There are some really shady characters out there. I can't believe what a crazy guy you ending up meeting. I am glad you had him figured out. I think plenty of guys are OK online, just a lot are socially awkward or shy.
It is a crazy world out there! I think most men online are are weirdo's not all but most. A quick real life scenario that happened to me recently. I am a filmmaker who was hiring actors for a short film I was doing.
One particular actor and I hit it off as friends and started talking. He is currently on his second wife and from the UK Wales. He claims he fell in-love with me and only married twice for his citizenship. I started to smell a rat and felt everything he was saying to me was a lie so I investigated him found his first wife and she told me everything pertaining to who this guy really is.
He has a rape charge against him from when he was 16 cheated on her with transsexuals and a cocktail waitress and was also physically abusive. She and I recently got in-touch with his current wife who is pregnant and sent her some evidence and info. All I have to say is this experience rocked my world and really makes me look at men in a different way. My advice to everyone is to really do their homework on individuals. I find most people just get caught up in fake charm etc.
Really ask questions one thing he always said was "I'm very very smart". I'm glad I didn't date him or marry him not that I would. Pay attention to red flags and listen to your gut.
Background checks and interviews with the exes nowadays you can't be too careful or too trusting. I really appreciate your feedback and thanks for sharing my hub. It has been a weird and rocky road with online dating. The online dating and meeting is bitter and sweet experience both at the time or at the different time. Thanks for sharing this awesome information. Really impressed with your touch to online meeting.How I hacked online dating - Amy Webb
Liked and shared. This is supposed to be a sarcastic hub based on my actual experiences. There really are some guys like this on the dating sites Lighten up, dude. I don't think it is appropriate to judge people and put them in categories like this. Anyway, seems like you are being really negative and stereotyping people based on vague impressions. I do know what you mean However, there is a time to let go.
I've approached guys that have totally ignored me, too. It happens. Thanks for the comment! I think we have typecast just a bit. Probably guilty of getting upset when not replied to- but I admit it, at least.
You stay on a site for 4 years and meet a profile that is a perfect match I don't think too many men would find this FUN. Of course, you just move on, etc. Great Article, I actually do online dating as well, and yes there are some creapers out there, and there are some good guys too.
It's a lot of work filtering through and finding good dates. Thank you for sharing. Oh yes, both show a lot of style and class. When I see those photos, I think "winner! Or sunglasses in a dark room! Yes, it is an added bonus if the room is dark and the photo is a little grainy. That serial killer look is so hot. Thanks for the comment. Nothing attracts me more than a profile picture of a stern man glaring at the lenses, unshavenhair a mess, and half naked.
Jessie Whitmere - We just might have dated the same guy! I think some guys need to come to terms with what they really want. It is sad to live a lie. Even weirder, the guy I went out with had even managed to find a wife at some point, but it ended quickly. Bet I know why! Grant N. There are plenty of people out there that are also shy, but would be happy if someone sent them a message.
The worst thing that can happen is someone turns you down or never responds. It is nothing personal. As long as you don't come across as being too forward, people are usually nice to you. Give it a try! Some people just weren't taught manners and that is a shame. Thanks for dropping by! Great hub advising the perils of online dating. There are so many socially challenged people trying to find love online. They don't get that their demeanor online is just as important as offline.
Creepy and aggressive doesn't work in any format. Very Good. Made me laugh. I am single and a male. I have always had a partner all my life until the last couple of years. So i joined a dating site. And one thing you have said is percent correct for me. I have been on the site for 2 years. I never send smiles, messages etc etc.
Because as you saidi don't know how to react. And rather than get it wrong i just look and never interact. That is sillyas i am a nice guy, i am resonabley clever ,[except when it comes to spelling].
(Link): Online Dating: Women Want Younger Men (article). (Link): Why Online (?Link): Creepizoids Weirdos and Perverts on Dating Sites. Lessons you learn after a year of online dating Not every guy on the app is some perv trying to get you to come fuck him in his basement Sure, I came across a fair amount of creeps and weirdos, but I've certainly come. One of THE most annoying things about online dating is dealing with the pervs (?perverts- for anyone who didn't know). Guys tend to be more.
But am just not good at talking by typingparticularly when i think the lady is prettyand i don't want to stuff anything up. So i just convinse myself i am busy and tell myself i will do something about dating later.
I suppose its because i have always meet any partners in person.
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And we have ended up together just because we meet by chance and got on so well. Dating sites seem so plannedserial killers must like that part. I live in New Zealand and am not sure if we have ever had a serial killer. In fack i have just asked some of my workmates, some being fairly older and they have all siadNONZ has never had a serial killer. Mind you we didn't realey get into online dating sites until it had been in the USA for quite some time.
Perhaps we are just a bit slower at starting new things. Perhaps i could be our first serial killer. And maybe because i make jokes like that it proves i will never do any good at dating.
Anyway i enjoyed your hub and i made me laugh. You are funny. Cheers Grant. My only date from an online dating site was with someone who I think might be gay. He made negative comments about my appearance. He also noticed my shoes and makeup and took me to a gay bar. He was also a jerk. We seem to be attracting the same people. So many people tell me success stories, yet I can't seem to find that myself. I don't know what is going on out there, but there are a lot of weirdos on those sites.
Thanks for reading and thanks for the comment! You hit it right on the money! I have the power of pulling gay men from the woodwork and have been in the awkward situation of trying to date gay guys many times. I'm sure for many people, online dating is perfect. For me, it was just another way to settle.